Happy November!
To support you in being F.I.R.S.T. (Future-Ready. Innovative. Relevant. Strategic. Trusted.), here’s 1 tip and 1 quote.
The F.I.R.S.T. Tip
It’s easy to be overly harsh on ourselves because we believe that it is what keeps us on our toes so we set lofty expectations, compare ourselves to others, and dwell on our mistakes. That is why self-compassion is critical for our mental well-being and allowing us to lead a more fulfilling life.
Self-compassion is treating ourselves with the same kindness, understanding, and care that we would offer to a dear friend. According to pioneering researcher Dr. Kristin Neff, self-compassion has three key elements: self-kindness, common humanity, and mindfulness.
Self-Kindness: This means responding to our own struggles with gentleness and patience, rather than harsh self-criticism. When we fail or falter, we can choose to offer ourselves comforting words and engage in soothing activities.
Common Humanity: Recognising that suffering and personal inadequacy are a natural part of the human experience can reduce feelings of isolation. Knowing that others face similar challenges fosters a sense of belonging and connection.
Mindfulness: Being aware of our thoughts and emotions without judgment helps us stay grounded in the present moment and avoid becoming overwhelmed by negative thoughts.
Here are 4 Practical Tips:
- Practice Self-Talk: Pause when you notice self-criticism, and reframe your thoughts in a more compassionate way. Ask yourself what you would say to a friend in the same situation and try to apply that kindness to yourself.
- Engage in Self-Care: Prioritise activities that nourish your body and mind. This could be anything from taking a relaxing bath to practicing yoga or spending time in nature. Regular self-care reinforces the message that you are deserving of care and kindness.
- Write a Self-Compassion Letter: When facing a challenge, pen a letter to yourself as you would to a dear friend, offering comfort and encouragement. Acknowledge your feelings, offer words of comfort, and remind yourself of your strengths and resilience.
- Connect with Others: Share your own struggles with trusted friends or join a support group. Knowing that others face similar experiences can provide comfort and reduce feelings of isolation. And if a friend approaches you with their challenges, be there for them in a non-judgmental way. Listen without offering unsolicited advice – simply provide a compassionate presence and let them know they are not alone.
Let’s embrace self-compassion and develop a more nurturing relationship with ourselves so that we can navigate life’s ups and downs with greater resilience and grace.
F.I.R.S.T. Tip: Be as kind to yourself as you would be to a friend.
The F.I.R.S.T. Quote
“You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.”
Buddha
